If you're like most people, you probably believe that most people are doing better than you are. This may not necessarily be true, however, and when you think about it, it's probably just a product of negative self-talk. Here are some reasons why you're doing better than you think!
Why we compare ourselves to others
We compare ourselves to others because we want to feel like we measure up, but that is a losing battle. We are all in this together and there will always be someone doing better than us and someone doing worse than us. That's life. Our job is not to compare ourselves to others. Our job is just to focus on being the best version of ourselves that we can be and do what it takes to live our lives according to our own standards. Remember, you'll never please everyone so don't try. And who knows? They might need your strength more than you know!
If we just keep our eyes on the prize and keep going, eventually everything will work out for the best - no matter how hard it feels right now.
The problem with social media
Social media is often a great way to see the highlights of your friends' lives. Sometimes it's the first place we go when we want to know what our old classmates are up to, but it can also make us feel like our lives don't measure up. It's easy to scroll through your feed and find people who are on vacation, about to graduate from school, or just showing off their new haircut. And while it's tempting to compare yourself to others, remember that social media doesn't tell the whole story. If you're feeling down about your life, try scrolling for an hour without looking at anyone else's pictures-you might be surprised by how many other things in your life you have going for you that you didn't notice before! We all experience highs and lows, so if you think this is just a low period, take some time to figure out why that is. Remember: no matter what they say on Instagram, there's always someone who has it worse than you do.
Comparing yourself to others is a losing game
p > One of the biggest things I’ve realized is that no one is looking at you the way you are looking at yourself. And if they are, it's because they have their own insecurities. Comparing yourself to others is a losing game, and so is focusing on what you perceive as your weaknesses. Focus on your strengths and take care of yourself. No matter how bad it may seem, there is always hope for improvement. Don't let self-doubt keep you from living the life you want to live. Keep pushing forward even when it feels like everything is going wrong. Eventually all of your hard work will pay off and you'll be happy with where you are in life. In the meantime, remember to love yourself enough to give yourself some time and space. Self-care doesn't have to be expensive or elaborate; it can just involve taking some time alone every day or watching your favorite TV show without interruption. It's important to stay mindful of who you are--keep creating!
focus on your own journey
p .s. I have had two or three panic attacks in the past year, which has been very reassuring for me. The first one was when my housemates were coming home from vacation and I was wondering how I would be able to say hello without having a panic attack.
First of all, it turned out that they came home late and slept over at a friend's place, so there was no need to worry about that one! Second of all, by the time they woke up and got back to their apartment, I had already come up with several scripts: I'm glad you're back. It sounds like you've been having fun. Do you want anything to eat? It was really helpful because as soon as I heard them start walking towards the door, instead of panicking I felt really calm and ready. They ended up coming into the living room, and we just hung out together until they went back outside again. I couldn't believe it - after all this time thinking that talking on the phone is what triggered my anxiety most of the time, suddenly I was okay speaking face-to-face.
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